They say nothing lasts when you’re in a long distance relationship. A love that is built miles away and only rely on the internet is useless. Living in a different time zone is also a challenge – good morning from you and good night to him. It’s difficult, right? You are awake, enjoying your day; while he’s sleeping because he had a very long day at work.
How can two people survive the challenge of distance? How to stay in love with someone that you don’t even get to touch and see physically? Isn’t it hard? When you are going out, you are the only one who doesn’t have a partner because your better half is miles away.
How to stay in love when you are in a long distance relationship?
Maybe the keywords are: Trust, Time, and Commitment.
Yes, it’s hard to trust someone. I think that’s normal, though. Trust is very important because it is where love starts. How can you love someone without trusting him or her? You see, no one stays in love if the relationship is full of doubt. Even those who aren’t in a long distance relationship, they tend to argue more often due to lack of trust. If you really love that person, you are willing to believe in everything that he or she said.
People want to be trusted but they don’t even know how to trust someone, ironic huh?
That’s why there’s “US” in between Trust – which means both of you need this word – not only he or she, it’s us. Distance will never be an issue if both of you trust each other.
How to make time if you’re living in a different time zone?
It doesn’t mean that you need to give your whole time to him or her. At least, make some time to talk with your partner, much better if both of you agreed to set a time for video call. Time is also a form of communication. Let your partner know what happens to you the whole day and ask him or her the same thing. Talk about random things that make you laugh so hard. Tell him about the disappointment that you had. Tell them what made you sad the whole day.
Letting your partner know these little stuffs is important. See, distance is not a problem here. If two people know the value of time and communication, then, there’ll be no problem at all.
The most important thing is in a long distance relationship is – commitment. Why?
When you are committed, you already know what your limit is. Commitment is not actually a promise; it is willingness to remain faithful to the person that you love.
Love is good and overwhelming in the beginning. But what if when you’re in the middle of the relationship? Everything started to be rough and tough; frequent fight continues to occur. What makes it a little harder is when distance became an issue. How to stay in this kind of relationship now if the world that you build together slowly falling apart?
You tend to look for another person to get comfort. A person who’s always there when you need a companion; you forget about the person from miles away.
But ask yourself first; was it worth it? To let go of the person you really love because things get rough. You tend to choose the other person because he or she’s always there when you are sad. You chose the easy one, not the hard one.
What if things get rough again with that other person? What will you do? Let go like what you did with your first?
There’s no perfect relationship.
Even the greatest, best, or cutest couple here on earth faced different type of struggles in relationship. Problems are part of relationship because it makes us grow and be a better individual for our partner. You know what the real problem is?
Promises are broken.
Time is forgotten.
Distance is not a problem because if you really love that person, you’re willing to embrace everything. It’ll be worth it. All hardships are worth it.